Life Experiences
Tuesday, March 4, 2025
The Coldest Times
Thursday, February 6, 2025
Remembering Shadow
Monday, January 13, 2025
The Best of 2024
This is the fourteenth year that I’ve collected dozens of the best experiences throughout the year. 2024’s list contained thirty-five entries and as usual, there were ones that were certain top tens and a bunch that contended for the last few inclusions. Elaine and I made a record fourteen trips in 2024, some to see the grandkids, others to watch football, visit family, or even learn some history. As I tell people, we put “tired” in the word “retired”! We start with one of America’s most scenic locations.
10. Niagara Falls
Elaine’s son Brian and his wife Deborah moved from Indianapolis to Buffalo when he accepted the Safeties & Nickels coaching job at the University at Buffalo. We made our second trip to Buffalo in September to watch his team play the University of Massachusetts, which resulted in a 34-3 win for the Bulls. The day before we spent an hour on Goat Island with Deborah to see the spectacular Niagara Falls. There are three falls, the largest being Horseshoe Falls which dumps about 2.5 billion gallons of water over its crest per hour, far more than the smaller American Falls and Bridal Veil Falls. It was a beautiful sunny day and the rainbows created by the mists were huge and stunning. Next time we won’t forget our rain ponchos.
9. Little Big Town Concert
One of the few big-name country bands we hadn’t seen over the years is Little Big Town, who have hits including “Day Drinking”, “Better Man”, “Pontoon”, “Little White Church”, and “Wine, Beer, Whiskey”. We quickly grabbed floor seats with Elaine's sister and brother-in-law when we saw they were playing at PPG Paints Arena in November with opening acts by Sugarland and The Castellows. Little Big Town is comprised of the husband-and-wife duo of Karen Fairchild and Jimi Westbrook, Kimberly Schlapman, and Phillip Sweet. We drove down early, had beers at PreGame, saw the concert, and ducked out a bit early to avoid the rush.
8. Las Vegas Bowl
The Texas A&M Aggies went 8-4 during their football season making them bowl-eligible in the first year of Elaine’s son Pat as their Special Teams Coordinator. That game was the Las Vegas Bowl on December 27 at Allegiant Stadium. We flew out on Christmas Eve, had dinner at The House of Blues in the Mandalay Bay hotel, and spent Christmas morning watching our grandkids, Griffin and Joey, open their presents. We walked the Strip every day, had a nice dinner at the Rí Rá Irish Pub, and watched the sharks, rays, turtles, and other creatures of the sea at the Shark Reef Aquarium. The football ended on a sad note, a last-minute 35-31 loss to the USC Trojans.
7. Main Street in Williamsville
Williamsville is the village just north of Buffalo that Brian and Deborah moved to. From their apartment, you can walk up through Glen Park and along Ellicott Creek as it falls over the Onondaga Escarpment, forming the 27-foot-high Glen Falls, to reach Main Street. We ate and drank at many places along a half-mile stretch including Glen Park Tavern, Britesmith Brewing Company, Moor Pat (Tap Room spelled backward), Creekview Restaurant, and The Irishman Pub & Eatery. During our July trip, bands play at a dozen or more venues creating a festive atmosphere.
6. Silent Disco
In February, we went on a 7-day Caribbean Cruise, with stops in Nassau, Bahamas, Cozumel, Mexico, and Georgetown, Grand Cayman. The journey to Fort Lauderdale was nerve-racking as detailed in the blog “At Least We Made It”, but after that things calmed down, and while the weather was cooler and rainier than we hoped, we had a good time with family and friends. We spent a fair amount of time in the middle of the ship in an area known as the Martini Bar and one evening we were introduced to a Silent Disco. Each participant received a pair of noise-canceling headphones that could play one of three channels, each blasting a different genre of music. Imagine hundreds of people singing at the top of their lungs, unable to hear each other, and dancing together. Each channel selection used a different color, so you could meet and mingle with people who shared your taste in music. It was a total blast!
5. Bear Creek Golf Club
We took a 16-day road trip from mid-September through the first week of October, something we had never attempted before. We called it the History and Beach Tour and some other highlights are below, but we’ll start with golfing on Hilton Head Island at the Bear Creek Golf Club. There are a lot of golf courses in Hilton Head, and most are pretty pricey and very nice. We found a moderately priced course for our first round, but it was far from nice. Our next choice, Bear Creek, was affordable, well-kept, and a good challenge. They had a good driving range with all the balls you wanted to hit. The course had tall pine trees, plenty of bunkers, left and right dog-leg fairways, and intimidating water hazards. It was nice that we brought our golf clubs from home and did not have to rent unfamiliar equipment. Tough and beautiful is a great combination for golf and we enjoyed playing those nine holes.
4. Salsa Making and Salsa Dancing
Our one booked excursion during the Caribbean Cruise was on the Mexican island of Cozumel. We started with a bus ride to a Mexican market to buy tomatoes, limes, and other ingredients before heading to Playa Mia to make our homemade guacamole and pico de gallo, making them as spicy as we liked. We learned a few moves of traditional Mexican salsa dance and sipped a variety of alcoholic drinks before heading back to the ship for another day at sea.
3. Touring Monticello
Monticello was Thomas Jefferson’s primary plantation, located a few miles southeast of Charlottesville, Virginia. Jefferson designed it to look smaller than its 11,000 square feet spanning three floors and a cellar. We opted for the Behind-The-Scenes Tour, a 90-minute adventure that includes exploring the upper floors that are accessed by very narrow, steep staircases, and the cellar which contains the kitchen, smokehouse, icehouse, wine and beer cellars, and other storage areas. We passed the small cemetery on the walk up to the house and found the grave of Jefferson. His mother Jane, his wife Martha, daughters Martha and Maria, and other family and close friends are also buried there. To make our journey shorter the next day, we drove from Monticello to a hotel south of Richmond, Virginia for the night. We traveled to North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina the next day and had a delightful time there with Byran and Diane Lebovitz before heading to Hilton Head.
2. Touring Gettysburg
Gettysburg has been a bucket list item for quite a while and we planned our 16-day History and Beach Tour around finally getting there. We started with a two-hour Battlefield Bus Tour, visiting numerous fields, monuments, and ridges. The three-day Battle of Gettysburg was fought between Union and Confederate forces between July 1 and July 3, 1863. We visited Cemetery Ridge, Little Round Top, Culp’s Hill, and others. We learned how the battle unfolded and how the final day’s Pickett's Charge by the forces under General Robert E. Lee failed to break the Union lines at Cemetery Ridge, forcing them to retreat. We toured the National Military Park Museum and an emotional late-afternoon walking tour of the National Cemetery where thousands of Union soldiers are buried.
1. The 38-23 Texas A&M win over LSU
We picked months in advance which Texas A&M football game would be our first at Kyle Field in College Station, Texas, and it was the perfect choice. We were among the 108,852 people who packed into the stadium to watch the 14th-ranked Aggies take on the 8th-ranked LSU Tigers. Everything was first-rate, from parking in the coach's lot to entering through the Athletic Offices to the seats on the 47-yard line in the 17th row, the best I’ve ever had for this big a game. LSU had a 17-7 half-time lead, but after the first series in the second half, the second-string quarterback, Marcel Reed took over the offense and he ran for three straight touchdowns giving the Aggies a lead they would never give up. The place was so loud you had to scream in someone’s ear to be heard. Final score: 38-23.
Monday, August 26, 2024
At Least We Made It
Monday, January 15, 2024
The Best of 2023
This is the thirteenth year of posting about the top ten experiences of the previous year and while it was usual that several very deserving ones were left on the chopping block, what makes 2023 special is the top five are not about some awesome concert, awesome dinner, or flying a helicopter. They are all family-related events that made the year so great. As usual, we start at number ten and work our way to the best of the best.
10. Guest Bartenders
When George’s (the owner of Jorrge’s Restaurant and Cantina) wife had shoulder surgery it left him shorthanded and Elaine and I (and several others) volunteered to take a few nights running the bar while he waited tables. That consisted mainly of pouring beers and margaritas, making an occasional Old Fashioned or frozen daiquiri, and running the cash register. When we weren't slammed with orders, we talked with the bar folks, most of whom we knew. It was great helping a friend in a pinch and giving our tips to the young kids who deliver food and clean up tables.
9. Biltmore Tour
We began our early September trip to North Carolina by taking a day to tour the mansion, gardens, and grounds at The Biltmore Estate in Asheville. The tour is self-guided and the provided headset directs you around and activates its narrative when you get to the next room. Huge dining rooms, libraries filled with thousands of books, majestic fireplaces, bedrooms so large they make their normal-sized beds look small, and huge handpainted religious rugs hanging on walls are just some of its many splendors. Below ground, the basement is filled with kitchens, pantries, and the servants' quarters, and the floor below that workout rooms, a bowling alley, and the shell of an old swimming pool. Outdoors, most of the gardens were past their prime yet still lovely, but the conservatory was overloaded with large, beautiful arrangements.
8. ain’t too proud
Our friends Ralph and Kathy treated us in June to “ain’t too proud” at the Schuster Performing Arts Center, a musical about the life and times of the Motown group The Temptations. Our seats were awesome situated in the middle of the eighth row. “The Way You Do the Things You Do”, “In the Still of the Night”, “Shout”, “My Girl”, “Ain't Too Proud to Beg”, “If You Don't Know Me by Now”, “Just My Imagination”, and “Papa Was a Rollin' Stone” were just a few of the dozens of hits performed that evening. The story of The Temptations, their successes and losses, and the number of members who came and went as the group changed over the years was all new to us. This was a Broadway-quality production and a delightful evening.
7. Dinner at Beachcomber
We spent another week in Clearwater Beach, Florida with Albert and Marilou (Elaine’s sister and brother-in-law) in late April, the third straight year we left the cold and dreariness of the Ohio winter. As is Elaine and my tradition, we had an upscale dinner on the final night, this time at Beachcomber, located on the main drag that is Mandalay Avenue. It was way more upscale than we thought it would be, a true fine dining experience. Elaine had the surf-and-turf which she recalls to this day, and although I can’t remember mine (it was probably the sea scallops) I do recall it was also delicious.
6. March Madness in Greensboro
This is the fourth trip to take in the first and second rounds of an NCAA basketball tournament and the trip to North Carolina also allowed us to see our grandson Griffin. The Friday afternoon games at Greensboro Coliseum had Xavier topping Kennesaw State by five points and Pittsburgh easily defeating Iowa State by eighteen. We opted to take in the evening games back at our hotel and we’re glad we did. Rain and fog made it difficult to navigate back in the daylight and I don’t want to think how awful that would have been near midnight. We watched the Kentucky and Kansas State from the comfort of our hotel. Fortunately, the Sunday second-round games were scheduled in the early afternoon and we saw double-digit victories by Xavier and Kansas State. Nothing gets us into the tournament more than immersing ourselves in the early rounds.
5. Pat Gets Texas A&M Job
Two years after Elaine’s son Pat took the Special Teams Coordinator/Tight Ends coach at Duke and moved his family from Indiana to North Carolina, Duke’s Head Coach Mike Elko returned to Texas A&M as their Head Coach and offered Pat the Special Teams Coordinator job. Getting a position like this at an SEC (Southeastern Conference) school is a huge step up and while once again the family has to move, we’re excited for them. Driving to College Station, Texas would be over 1,000 miles, double the long enough trip to NC, but flying there, or to Houston or Austin and driving the rest, will result in about the same amount of travel time, still, they just seem that much further away, at least until the next promotion.
4. Josephine Rochelle Dougherty
Everyone says their newborn grandchild is the cutest thing in the world, but when our granddaughter Joey was born on August 29th, she put all others on notice. She is simply adorable with her big eyes and adorable smile. She’s one of those babies that sleep through anything including her brother’s big voice and one or more barking dogs. We made a special trip down to North Carolina to see her and capture pictures of us while she was still so tiny, just over a week after she was born. We made two more trips over the next two months to see her, marveling at how fast she was growing physically and in our hearts.
3. Brian and Deborah Get Married
After a twenty-month engagement, Elaine’s son Brian and his fiance Deborah Klopfenstein exchanged vows in March at St. Charles Church in Kettering, Ohio. We hosted the Rehearsal Dinner the evening before at a private dining room at Figlio’s where they did a splendid job serving our group of three dozen guests. The reception was held in the Eichelberger Pavilion in Carillon Historical Park, a stunning venue at easily held their 160 guests. Dinner was provided by Bernstein's Catering featuring charcuterie boards and entrees of slow-roasted short ribs, ricotta agnolotti, and herb-roasted chicken. The evening concluded with speeches, toasts, and lots of dancing.
2. Mike and Leslie Get Married
My son Mike and his finance Leslie Harshman said “I do” in an outdoor ceremony in June at Hidden Valley Orchards in Lebanon, Ohio. Mike and Leslie have known each other for over ten years, dated for seven, and he finally bought her a ring in 2021. This was a small, casual but equally beautiful ceremony followed by food and drinks. All four of our children are now happily married and we couldn’t be happier or more proud of each of them.
1. 15th Wedding Anniversary
We have a wedding anniversary every year (obviously) and I don’t put it on the list, but the 15th seemed so special that I wanted to make it even more so by making it the best of this year’s list. Elaine and I had a great dinner at Jag’s in West Chester and spent the night at the nearby Marriott. We have had a great and memorable fifteen years and I love her more now than when we said “I do” at Incarnation Church on January 5, 2008. So even if our anniversary doesn’t make this list each year, our life together is always the best of the best.